Finding Beauty

beautyMy friend Sandy is a Master hair Stylist. She is very well known for her perfection in creating beauty with hair and also for her stories and spiritual thoughts of wisdom she passes on to her clients. Her blog is titled SandyColoredHair.com

Below is part of an email I sent to her as a lead off to entice her to work together on the project of drawing more attention to Beauty. This means in all aspects of life, the outer and the inner, the awareness of and seeing where it takes us.

She agreed and here is a partial of what I sent her.

Sandy,
Attached is an article on poet Rumi from Spirituality Health Magazine, March 2008. I saw this and immediately thought, I need to send to Sandy.

I love the opening line on this article, as a theme, to work on together. We can approach beauty in all of life; people, nature, animals, words, thoughts, writing, languages, places, music, songs, art, learning and anything else we can think of.

“Beauty is a significant presence, and it is beauty,
                    in whatever form, that awakens love.”
-Rumi

I am sharing some thoughts to keep in a folder for when the time fits. Thoughts of you, what you do, how you think and how you write is what inspired me think of adding a section on beauty to the mix.

Let’s use Beauty to awaken us, and our readers, to another level of awareness of life.

Still game?

Bonito,
ray j

Here is a quote about Sandy. Julie’s quote, of which a partial here, is what urged me to get this rolling. I read it, said yes that is her let’s see if we can get her to expand her stories.

“Meeting Sandy has changed the way I look at beauty. I’ve never met someone with the level of authentic passion that she radiates for her life’s calling.”
~Julie Colvin, Book Project Coach,Wellness Facilitator and
Author of, A Cure for Emma.

www.acureforemma.com www.wellnesswritingretreats.com

Well Sandy was game for the project so here is her first Blog.
She is a completely Beautiful role model herself, how she looks, how she thinks, speaks and writes.

I am sure this will grow and evolve Beautifully over the next year and on.

Sandy’s Blog Post:

Finding Beauty for Ray Justice
by Sandy Evenson on April 6, 2014
SandyColoredHair.com

sandyI have been asked by my friend, Ray Justice, to join him on a new adventure. We are exploring the “World of Beauty” on his Web site, ecpathways.com. Along the way, we aim to help people discover inner beauty and all of its manifestations. We will give our respective points of view on beauty from every angle. I know the male/female perspectives are going to create exciting discoveries for our readers. So, I thought I would get the ball rolling by sharing one of my favorite stories.

Early in my career as a master haircolorist, I found a great way to help my guests see for themselves what I could see when I evaluated their skin tone, existing hair color and eye color. I used a computer assisted color analysis method that would isolate their unique color combinations. It was always fun to show someone just how many colors were in their eyes!

Annie was a wonderful girl who visited the salon regularly for haircuts and highlights. She was among the thousands of hard working women on Capitol Hill in Washington, D.C. I gained enormous respect for those women, the people you never hear about, working behind the scenes for all of those faces you see in the media.

She was an interesting study. She was so very shy and introverted that it was even hard for her to lift her head enough for me to shape the fringe of hair around her face and over her eyes. I often wondered if something had happened to her to make her so afraid. It made me cringe to think what it might have been.

So, I was so excited when she asked me to do her colors and give her a makeup lesson. She was getting up the courage to speak to a new young man she had noticed at work. This was such progress for her. I was so proud to take part in bolstering her confidence.

After spending some time selecting her colors, I placed each of them next to one another…one for her softly highlighted hair, one for her lovely green eyes and one for her peaches and cream skin. She looked at them and said “They’re beautiful.” I looked back at her saying “That’s because you are beautiful.”

She looked again at the colors. Her eyes widened. She began to smile. Her face was utterly glowing. I think it was the very first time she had ever heard those words spoken about her. It was such a simple thing for me. But, for her, she was just now discovering her true beauty.

I watched her grow in so many ways. She started to walk taller, exuding confidence. And yes, she was even able to introduce herself to that guy who had piqued her interest at the office.

Beauty exists all around us. The very best of beauty comes from deep inside ourselves. We all have inner beauty. And we need to learn to bring it out and share it with the world. That’s when it truly blossoms.

Ray and I are working out the details and will begin our beauty quest soon. Join us on the journey and discover your unique gifts of beauty.

Check out the site. Then, share your comments and insights when we’re up and running.

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“Lonely is The Night” Changing what you think is so.

“Lonely is The Night”
Changing what you think is so.

guitarHow much of my life, of your life, is a habit or pattern?
My answer is quite a bit, often much more than I am aware of.

The way is has been, during our life, is often the way we do it, think it or believe it.
A great deal of this we are not aware of and on a form of automatic pilot.

Questions to ask ourselves when we become aware of those repeating thoughts and beliefs.

Are they real? Are they true? Or just what you are used to?

Here is an example story that happened to me.
There was the time, many years ago, when my son was about 12 years old and wanted to go to a concert featuring rock star Billy Squire. My story was that I did not like his music, with his loud screeching guitars.  So my belief was I don’t like rock, or at least this type, at all.

He was too young to let go alone or with friends and he really wanted to go.
I had an idea and asked him to make me a cassette tape. Remember this was way before iPods were invented. He copied several Billy Squire songs and I listened to them twice a day for two weeks. I would go for a two-mile jog in the morning and again when I got home from work. I estimated I listed to about 7 hours of Mr. Squire during my daily runs.

I intentionally decided to work on my mind before I took him and his friend to the concert.
I had to find a way to not be aggravated by it all. Earplugs were also on my list of possibilities. It worked beyond my expectations; I just needed to be open to possibilities.
Guess what?  I still enjoy Billy Squire to this day and that was 30 years ago.
“Lonely is the Night” still pops into my head now and then and I love it.

So what is the meaning of this story?

My belief was that I do not like this type of music. Even stronger I would of said, then, that it drives me nuts and is annoying.  I changed my belief because I had a reason big enough to have me figure out a way to enjoy it or at least tolerate it.

With “Lonely is The Night” as the theme it becomes a reminder that when we go to bed at night it is a perfect time to pay attention to what we are thinking. What is going on with our thoughts?  It is also a perfect time to practice thinking about, or visualizing what and how we would like things to be instead of how we don’t.

Change is possible and not as difficult as you would think.
Rock on Billy Squire.
“Learn How to Live” by Billy Squire
Year: 1982
Album: Emotions in Motion

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“Very Useful” – The Most Important Part

19122011“Very Useful”  -  The Most Important Part

“When talking with another friend this afternoon, I shared with her what you said about how the most important part of any interaction is the way you feel about yourself, and it was a very useful insight for her. I will definitely be reflecting on and drawing upon that for years to come.”

After we had a business conversation on the phone I received the above message from my friend, Alyce, the next day.
What I was drawn to was her wording “very useful”.
If someone had asked me what our conversation was about I would have answered that we talked about how important it is to feel good, or actually great, about yourself.  This is a very important piece of any communication or connection and thinking of it as “very useful” seems to add more clarity and even an “aha!” Yes not only is this a good idea, about knowing yourself and being aware of how you feel in the moment, but it is also “very useful”.
I can do something with this.
I started wondering about how many things we talk about each day that have little meaning and are not especially useful, let alone “very useful”.
Taking care of our self is important, not only for us but for everyone we come in contact with. Note: we exchange energies with each other.

Think about this, would you rather be in a room with a very happy, enthusiastic person or a nervous, angry or upset one? . . . and when you are, pay attention to how that has an affect on you and how you feel.

It is also interesting, and useful, to remember and know that we learn many things by repetition and the power of suggestion.
That is what I have done in the paragraph above (and below)
I have repeated that this is “very useful”, have drawn attention to it by bolding the wording and hopefully have gotten your attention as to what is “very useful” in this writing.

Now back to my friend Alyce’s comment on what was “very useful”. That is, knowing and understanding that an “important part of any interaction is the way you feel about yourself”.

Next step, pay attention to your conversations and notice if your chosen words had any real meaning. After you have a little insight on that then pay attention to how you are actually feeling about yourself. And then think about how your own thoughts, about yourself, are a part of how you feel. Not the whole thing but a piece to consider.

Are you feeling alert, confident, curious, interested, trusting?
Are you willing to pay attention or are you daydreaming and thinking of other things to talk about.
If this is the most important part of an interaction and is “very useful” to know, then our mission with any connection, besides being informed and prepared, is to feel balanced, alert, aware, and grateful to be with the person we are interacting with.

I have been taught that we need to hear or see something at least seven times to even remember it let alone have it be part of who we are.  In this writing I have repeated, that this is “very useful” information, eleven times, if I counted correctly.
If you have read this far then you have the idea and the rest is up to you.
Enjoy!

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Personal Energy – Our Thoughts and Poetic Thinking

At a presentation on personal energy and how it effects our self and others, I did an exercise that had some interesting results. It was for a group of about 70 health care professionals.

Here is how the exercise went.

I asked on a scale of one to ten, to focus on how they felt, in their body, as they heard the word. And to respond quickly, and out loud, without thinking.  “1″ being low energy, or negative, in some form and “10″ being high energy, feels good.

For the first word “Discipline”, most  said “2″,  for the next word “Adore” most said ”10″.

I had done the same exercise with a different group at an earlier date and they said the exact same numbers - “2” & “10″.

Interesting on its own and a reminder for us all to become more and more aware of our thoughts and words and to practice changing some of them if they do not feel good. Awareness is the first step. If we are not paying attention inwardly we will not even know what is there.

Think about practicing with your thoughts and words just as we practice with improving our physical abilities with sports and games. Our personal energy and awareness improve in the same way by being interested to do so, having the intention and practicing to change our habit.

Having written a fair amount of intimate poetry I am interested in finding a way to mix poetic thinking with our daily lives and even with business situations.

Poetic thinking, or writing, is somewhat more about what you feel, and are aware of with your senses, than just what you are thinking about.

It is a deeper, more present, more in tune, more compassionate, and more about life, way of thinking, writing, speaking and being.

Poetic writing and thinking style might be an interesting exercise to relate to some event in your life.  If you do it a few times, you might just surprise yourself.

Remember getting started, taking the first step, is the difficult part. Once you start, your pen, or keyboard, will take over almost on it’s own. Here is a question to ponder and use as a starter.

What choice could you make today that would enhance your personal environment?

And why could or would that happen?

Enjoy this moment as it is constantly changing, and a good time to change your thoughts.

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Eating & Being Aware That We Are Eating

Eating & Being Aware That We Are Eating While We Do.

This following message came in my email this morning from Yoga Journal’s “Daily Insight” – a great free service for subscribers   –   YogaJournal.com

The reason I am posting it here is I have to believe that I am not the only one who often eats on the fly or in the car. I meditate and do Yoga daily and yet. . . It speaks for itself and I am using it to increase my awareness another level. To eat and to be aware that I am eating at the same time. It won’t always happen but it will become more conscious. A new habit is beginning.

Yoga Journal ”Daily Insight” – 1/18/13

Do you ever feel like food is something that’s getting between you and your life?
In today’s modern world, we rarely make time to eat mindfully.
Often, we eat on the go, in cars or at our desks for the five minutes we can spare.
But when we eat without noticing our food, we miss one of life’s greatest pleasures and we allow that which should nourish us to become that which causes us stress.
The next time you eat, take a moment to relax and really taste your food.

Stop what you’re doing, sit down, and notice the flavors, textures, and smells of the meal in front of you.
Express gratitude for the health and nourishment it provides.
And then, as you eat, truly enjoy the experience.

Over time, this ritual can improve your digestion and overall physical and mental health.

 

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Flexible vs Rigid

Flexible vs Rigid
The Weather as Our Teacher

Can you imagine being a person that is rigid in thinking, in other words not very flexible, and then working a career involving the weather? With Mother Nature we have to be flexible, we have no choice, we can not control it.  Weather can be a great teacher for preparation, attitude and handling change, dealing with what is.
Think of a tree in a strong wind, it bends with the breeze, if it does not it may break or become uprooted. Nature and the weather become our teachers.
What about the constant changes even when we “think” we know what the weather will be.

Flexible means that we can adjust, like putty, mold-able, stretchable, and adjustable.
By the way, according to my dictionary, “able” means “having the skill or means to do something”

So with that in mind, another very important question for us personally, is, are we coach-able?  Are we teachable and willing to learn what we need to adjust to?

Do we have the means, the wherewithal, the willingness to be coached, to learn, to change?

Being flexible means we are open and willing to go with the situation of the day as it happens, as it unfolds.blame,

Questions to ask yourself

Can I adjust to what is and am I willing to?
. . . or do I stay with what was “supposed” to be.
It was supposed to be a sunny day and it rains.

Do we want to blame someone, something, or adjust to what is?

First of all, the weather doesn’t care or even know what you had in mind. It doesn’t matter. What does matter is what is.

Flexible thinking expands your choices and possibilities.

Think about this, our expectations – every time something is not “exactly”as we expected, we could instantly adjust our attitude and start watching for a new possibility.

Or this one – try planning to be flexible instead of planning for everything to be exact. Plan for flexibility, be open for the new, leave a little wiggle room. Deal with what is instead of what “should have” been.

There is something about being flexible that just makes things work better. Hard to measure, difficult to say exactly, yet flexibility makes it all easier, goes with the flow.

Rise above, be on top of it – be willing, be flexible.

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Change Again

A very short poem that says a lot.

The knowing and acceptance that life changes, as do the seasons is part of the natural creation cycle of our universe. I like the metaphor of the seasons as they come and go consistently. We know that change is coming and about when it will, yet there is always something original or a bit different than last the season’s change.

Having the attitude of being ready and then, also, to look for the new possibilities in the change that will be there is a lesson I am always relearning - again and again.

 

 Again

…. and then,

when we get there

everything,

everything will change

again

. . . and then

     -   ©2008-2012 ray justice

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Focus – a Lesson from Squash

In a game of Squash I was ahead by a score of 7 to 2 with 9 being the winning point.

As I served for the 8th point, meaning two points to go and this game is over, I started thinking “Do we have time to play another game?” While I was having this discussion in my head I lost that serve and the next two points – 7 to 4.

I then preceded to have a conversation with myself about making sure I pay attention and not be thinking while playing the game. The result of that conversation in my head was that I lost the next three points and it was now 7 to 7. By the time I figured out that I needed to stop thinking I had lost that round.

This story is to emphasis how quickly and easily we can lose our focus. We see it regularly in sports but have to realize how often we do it in our day to day situations. The game is that of not thinking so that we are present to what is going on. Focus, focus, focus is a big part of how we stay on track or not and let things slip on a daily basis. In sports it is called a loss of momentum, in our business world it is the same thing, loss of focus. Coaches have to bring the team mind set back into focus. For us in day to day life, we have to do it for ourselves. Being aware of the present moment, what is happening now by what our natural senses are picking up can help bring us back to focus

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Doodling as an Asset

Doodling

I read that Doodling during a meeting helps to increase retention up to 30%.  The article I read said that the study was done by Jackie Andrade, who is a psychology professor at the University of Plymouth in England. The study appears online in Applied Cognitive Psychology.

Doodling, they say in the article about the study, actually helps us to focus and pay attention.  I would like to take it another step and say that it also helps us to not think as much.  Our active brains are always going on and on about something. When we write, or Doodle, it is often just enough of “doing” to get a break from our “thinking” and allow our natural intuition to kick in. So Doodle away as you focus better and along with that often comes a free gift of a new insight, idea or possibility.

Doodling is listed in the dictionary as “absentminded” scribbling.  There is kind of a negative tone with absentminded, forgetful, distracted, daydreaming are the words that come to mind.  Let’s add that it also can be a means of connecting to our intuitive self and that being a very positive event on most days.

Next time you Doodle, save your artwork to look over and review. Once in a while you may get a very pleasant surprise in the form of an idea. On another level Doodling is like making it OK to play. So keeping a pad and pencil near, even if you type in all your notes, is a good idea.

My first journal book give to me by my good friend Beth (MutualChoices.com) turned out to be a Doodling experience for me. Back then I thought journaling was a “Dear Diary” experience and I was not interested in writing so the whole book became page after page of Doodling. I still have it and one friend, Michele Blood (Musivation.com) suggested that I have it printed as a book. It is loaded with interesting Doodles, thoughts and yes some interesting possibilities.

© 2012 rayjustice.com

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Collaboration

. . .when two smart people vehemently disagree, the answer is almost never to fight it out until one idea prevails, but rather to vigilantly search for a third, better way. That doesn’t mean a compromise, but rather a recognition that when two smart collaborators can’t agree, there’s probably something not quite right in either of their solutions.

These few lines are from an article from FastCompany.com. The article speaks for itself so no further words needed here.

For the full article from Fast Company here is the link
http://www.stumbleupon.com/su/1MJjm5/www.fastcompany.com/1758577/what-ive-learned-about-collaboration-from-my-daughters     Collaboration _ FastCompany.com

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